The following information provides you with some of the insights we share with the participants of the Natural Superheroes events.
Type Nine The Peacemaker
Also known as: Mediator, Negotiator World View: The world makes me unimportant Focus on: Keeping the peace and merging with others Underlying Fear: Of not belonging Natural Virtues: Endurance, focus, cooperativeness Natural Coaching and Leadership Style: Participatory, all inclusive
Overview of Type Nine Enneagram Profile
Potentially the most elegant in their approach to life are the NINES. They have an extraordinary ability to understand the other point of view. So, when they truly focus themselves and others clearly, they produce quite remarkable results. NINES are known for their tremendous patience, ability to be non- judgemental, and to embrace a wide variety of not only different opinions but also paradoxes. They rarely get side-tracked by extremes, thus making excellent peacemakers and negotiators.
Of all the types, the NINES find it easiest to empathise with all the others and can enter each of their worldview very easily. They know how to support and get the best out of people working with them. The NINES are easy going and their accepting nature makes others feel at ease with them. The desire to get along with others can lead to an inability to take a position on an issue. There is a fear of saying no and producing an angry reaction, which leads to a suppression or denial of any personal agenda or desire. There is a tendency to minimise the importance of personal goals when others’ request and demands seem more urgent. Anger is shown indirectly through passive aggression rather than direct confrontation. Seeing both the positive and negatives equally well, on all sides of an issue, can lead to procrastination and indecisiveness and sometimes being diverted into trivial unimportant activity, at the cost of progress towards a goal.
Underlying Issues that arise for Nines
There is a core belief that they in themselves are unimportant and insignificant to the ‘bigger picture’, which leads them to simply follow along with other people’s agendas and demands. There is a fear of other people’s anger directed toward them, a fear of separation from others, and the sense that to ‘belong’ they have to forget what is truly important to themselves and divert their energy elsewhere.
At their worst (when feelings of apathy, grief, fear, lust and anger arise) Passive- aggressive, sluggish, sleepy, apathetic, catatonic, over- accommodating, unassertive, defensive, obsessive, forgetful, procrastinating, stubborn and spaced out
At an average-healthy level (when feelings of pride arise and courage) Gentle, receptive, egalitarian, empathetic, kind, supportive, patient, accepting, centred, mellow, easy going, non- judgmental, humble, generous, open minded, diplomatic At their very, very best (when they are feeling acceptance for what is and completely at peace) Focused, action orientated, competitive, they have a winning mentality
These behavioural tendencies are highlighted through the enneagram diagram by the lines of integration (healthy behaviour) and disintegration (unhealthy behaviour). The arrows within the diagram below follow the direction of where the types move towards when they are feeling stressed.
Healthy – When relaxed and productive, NINES take on some of the characteristics of THREES (Achievers)
Unhealthy – When stressed, NINES take on some of the characteristics of SIXES (Loyalists)
Enneagram Type Nines in Relationships
With a core motivation that drives the nine to feel unimportant and to merge with others, they understand other’s wishes easily but find it hard to know what they really want for themselves. It’s often easier to ask them what they don’t want. They find it very difficult to take a position on something, because that will mean having to defend it, and that will mean the possibility of conflict; so why not just agree and do it their way? If pushed to take a stand, they go quiet and stubborn. In a relationship the nine will often merge to such an extent that they find it very hard to separate. A relationship can continue ‘in their mind’ years after it has finished. At a healthy level the relationship succeeds when there is no loss of personal identity, as the nine merges and fully gives support to their partner and also engages fully in life through working towards what they feel passionate about.
Nines at Work
Nines have a desire for everyone to get along well and prefer a cooperative peaceful workplace. They can well reflect others’ positions and easily the pros and cons of any course of action. They will do all they can to avoid conflict or showing anger. As such, they avoid drawing too much attention to themselves but nevertheless wish their position and work to be appreciated.
They are creatures of habit and routine and like a job to be well defined in terms of responsibility and lines of communication and authority, and in such an environment can be extremely productive. They are easily encouraged by others’ enthusiasm for a project, and will often forget their own agenda while attending to the demands of others. In the absence of such enthusiasm nines find it difficult to take direction from others, and to avoid conflict will say yes when they mean no, but may go off and do their own thing anyway. A continual focus on appeasing others and being able to understand and reflect others’ concerns leads to a pronounced ability to empathise fully with many views; however, this makes it difficult to take a personal position on an issue, leading to compromise and procrastination, and slow decision making, where it is easier to decide what isn’t wanted rather than what is wanted.
The Leadership style of Nines
At their best the nines are expert consensus builders and can get along with anyone. They are expert communicators and bring together diverse viewpoints through encouraging mutual understanding. Challenging and uncooperative people are handled elegantly, considerately and patiently. There is a culture of cooperation rather than competition. There is a preference for routine and procedure. At unhealthy levels, the desire to build consensus deteriorates to downplaying serious issues just to keep the peace. Procrastination around decision making leaves issues festering until they become critical. Changes to routine appear very threatening. Feedback is taken personally and they don’t know who to trust.
Time Management Strategies for Nines
Nines, because they lose sense of what is important to them, rarely set specific goals for themselves and tend to prioritise things as they go often leading to doing important stuff at the last minute.
When they make choices and create clarity around their personal and business goals they are more easily able to transform themselves into results focused and action orientated people.
Their service driven nature can lead them to take on too much work delegated to them by others people. A positive nod of the head is read by others people as ” yes” whereas many nines really mean to communicate ” I hear you”.
Their passive agressives tendency leads them to avoid making contact with people to whom they have made promises which they have not been able or wanted to keep.
By completing a time management plan the evening of the next day, they stand more chance of keeping their personal focus on what is really important instead of being sidetracked by others people’s agenda in the morning.
The nine’s motto for time management should be – Just do it.
Enneagram Type Nines as Coaches
A healthy nine will challenge coachees and move them towards taking action required to achieve a result. However, at an average or unhealthy level their fear of conflict means they can allow their coachees to get away with far too much.
The can too often forget to clarify specific enough objectives which leads to action driven plans instead of results focused initiatives.
Nines enjoy storytelling because they benefit from a sense of connection with people which means they either find themselves talking too much during a coaching interaction or allowing the coachee to give them long winded reasons as to why they cannot achieve a goal. All too patiently the nine coach will often just sit and listen think that getting it off their chest will make a difference when in fact a change of approach and action is required.
Nines in Sport
In sport, goals are clear from the outset which makes sport a natural career choice and one which studies prove them to be highly successful.
The connection between the nine and the three shows that when nines become physically active and apply themselves fully to a sport they are probably the most likely of all the types to perform well consistently. This is evidenced by the achievements of considerably many more people of this enneagram type than any other, particularly those of nine with a one wing.
They have the patience and attention to detail to enjoy the routine of training and focus required on the technical aspects of their game.
Their relaxed nature however can lead to apathy during training and in competition.
Suggestions for the personal development of an Enneagram Type Nine
Start to notice:
- What happens when other people, circumstances, events compete for your attention?
- What happens when you put aside your own priorities in order to go along with others’ agendas and demands?
- What do you to to get diverted into inessential tasks and routines when more pressing things are obviously around you?
- How specifically have you compromise yourself to please others and mitigate anger?
- How would you feel if somebody was very angry with you?
- How would you feel if you could really express your anger to others?
- How has fear of expressing anger affected you?
- What has it cost you to avoid speaking your truth to others?
What you can do and ask of yourself:
- Could you allow yourself to stick to your own priorities?
- Could you allow yourself to treat your own opinions as being just as valid as anybody else’s?
- Allow yourself to set clear goals, action plans with time commitments, and get support to stay with them to completion.
- Ask ‘What can I take to completion today?’
- Ask yourself every morning what is important to you today, and review your progress at night
- Allow yourself to take a position and stick with it, and express it.
with a ‘eight’ wing
- Bill Clinton
- Gordon Brown
- Mark Victor Hansen
- Deepak Chopra
- David Beckham
- Michael Johnson
- Sir Steve Redgrave
- Colin Montgomerie
- Homer Simpson
- Samuel L Jackson
- Winston Churchill
with a ‘one’ wing
Current Business/Political Leaders
- Barack Obama
- Nelson Mandela
- Henry Ford
- Estee Lauder
- Coco Chanel
- Henry Wellcome
- Jesse Boot (Founder Boots the Chemist)
- Warren Buffett
- Jeff Bezos (Founder of Amazon)
- Lloyd Blankfein (CEO Goldman Sachs)
- Steve Jobs (Co Founder and Chairman of Apple Inc)
- Walt Disney
- Wayne Dyer
- Queen Elizabeth II
- Kofi Annan
- Oscar De La Rente
- Nabeel Gareeb (CEO MEMC Electronic Materials)
- Mo Farah
- AP McCoy
- Roger Federer
- Novak Djokovic
- Paula Radcliffe
- Tiger Woods
- Lewis Hamilton
- Michael Jordan
- Mark Spitz
- Haile Gebrsellasie
- Lester Piggott
- Arsene Wenger
- Cristiano Ronaldo
- Jonny Wilkinson
- Pete Sampras
- Bjorn Borg
- Tim Henman
- Andy Murray
- Michael Owen
- Steven Gerrard
- Thierry Henri
- Cristiano Ronaldo
- Sir Paul McCartney
- Sir Andrew Lloyd Webber
- Kevin Costner
- Harrison Ford
- Tom Hanks
- Charlize Theron
- Morgan Freeman
- Cate Blanchett
- Clint Eastwood
- Gregory Peck
- Steven Spielberg
- Sandra Bullock
- Grace Kelly
- Alexander Fleming
- The Wright Brothers
- Michael Angelo
- Marie Stopes
- William Wordsworth
- Isaac Newton